What Is the Impact of Infidelity on Virginia Divorce Settlements?
The discovery of infidelity can unravel the very fabric of a marriage, leaving behind a wake of emotional devastation and complex legal questions. When a relationship ends due to an affair, the path to divorce is often fraught with anger, betrayal, and a deep sense of injustice. In Virginia, these intense emotions intersect with a legal system that recognizes adultery not just as a betrayal of trust, but as a factor that can genuinely influence the outcome of a divorce settlement.
How Does Virginia Law Define Adultery?
In Virginia, adultery is defined by a specific legal standard. It requires proof that one spouse had voluntary sexual intercourse with a person who is not their spouse. Proving this in court is not always straightforward. The law requires more than mere suspicion or opportunity; it demands clear and convincing evidence.
This evidence can come in many forms, including:
- Direct testimony from a witness.
- Admissions from the unfaithful spouse.
- Photographs or videos.
- Text messages, emails, or social media communications that clearly indicate a sexual relationship.
- Financial records showing expenses for hotel rooms, gifts, or trips with the paramour.
It is important to note that simply having a close, emotional, or romantic relationship without physical intimacy does not meet Virginia’s legal definition of adultery. The act of sexual intercourse must be established for it to be considered a fault ground for divorce.
Is Adultery a Crime in Virginia?
A common point of confusion is the legal classification of adultery. Yes, under Virginia Code § 18.2-365, adultery is technically a Class 4 misdemeanor. However, this law is a relic of a different era and is very rarely, if ever, prosecuted today. The true impact of adultery lies not in criminal court, but in its significant consequences within the civil context of a divorce proceeding. Its main role in modern law is as a fault ground for divorce and a potential barrier to receiving spousal support.
The Direct Link Between Adultery and Spousal Support in Virginia
The most significant legal impact of infidelity in a Virginia divorce is on spousal support, also known as alimony. Virginia Code § 20-107.1 explicitly states that a spouse who commits adultery may be barred from receiving spousal support. This is not a discretionary or minor point; it is a powerful legal barrier.
If a judge finds that a spouse seeking support is guilty of adultery, and that the adultery has not been condoned (forgiven) by the other spouse, they are statutorily prevented from awarding spousal support.
However, there is a critical exception to this rule. A judge can still award spousal support to an adulterous spouse if they find that denying support would constitute a “manifest injustice.” To make this determination, the court will look at two key factors:
- The respective degrees of fault of each party during the breakdown of the marriage.
- The economic circumstances of each spouse.
For example, if the non-adulterous spouse was also at fault for the marriage’s failure (perhaps through cruelty or desertion) or if the cheating spouse is in a dire financial situation with no means of support while the other spouse is financially secure, a judge might find that a complete denial of support would be a manifest injustice. This exception is not easily met and requires a compelling argument, but it provides a potential avenue for support in specific situations.
Does Cheating Affect How Property Is Divided?
Unlike its direct impact on spousal support, infidelity has a more indirect effect on the equitable distribution of marital property and debt in Virginia. The state follows an “equitable distribution” model, which means assets and liabilities acquired during the marriage are divided fairly, though not necessarily in a 50/50 split.
Virginia law lists several factors for the court to consider when dividing property, one of which is “the circumstances and factors which contributed to the dissolution of the marriage, specifically including any ground for divorce.” This means the court can consider adultery when deciding how to divide assets.
How might this play out in practice?
- Dissipation of Marital Assets: If the cheating spouse spent significant marital funds on the affair—for instance, on expensive gifts, vacations, or apartments for the paramour—a judge may award the wronged spouse a larger share of the remaining marital estate to compensate for this waste. This is known as “dissipation” or “waste” of marital assets.
- Negative Non-Monetary Contributions: A judge might also view the act of infidelity as a negative non-monetary contribution to the well-being of the family, potentially tipping the scales in favor of the faithful spouse during property division.
While adultery can influence the outcome, it is just one of many factors. The court will also weigh the length of the marriage, the age and health of the spouses, their monetary and non-monetary contributions, and other considerations. It does not automatically mean the faithful spouse gets the majority of the assets.
What Is the Connection Between Adultery and Child Custody?
When children are involved, their well-being is the court’s paramount concern. In Virginia, child custody and visitation decisions are made based on the “best interests of the child” standard.
An affair, in and of itself, does not automatically disqualify a parent from having custody. A judge is unlikely to limit a parent’s time with their child simply because they were unfaithful to their spouse. The focus is on parenting ability, not marital fidelity.
However, a parent’s conduct related to the affair can become relevant if it negatively impacts the child. A court might consider the following:
- Exposing the child to an inappropriate relationship: If a parent introduces a new partner to the child too soon or in an inappropriate context, it could be seen as detrimental.
- Neglecting parental duties: If the parent’s involvement in the affair led them to neglect their responsibilities to the child, this would be a significant concern for the court.
- The character of the new partner: If the paramour has a history of substance abuse, criminal activity, or poses a danger to the child, a judge will take that very seriously.
In short, the affair must have a demonstrable negative effect on the child for it to influence a custody ruling. The court’s goal is to create a stable and nurturing environment for the child, and it will evaluate each parent’s ability to provide that, separate from their marital conduct.
Proving Infidelity in a Virginia Divorce Case
Because adultery carries such weight, especially concerning spousal support, proving it requires strong evidence. The standard of proof is “clear and convincing evidence,” which is a higher bar than the “preponderance of the evidence” standard used in most civil cases.
Gathering this level of proof often involves:
- Private Investigators: Hiring a professional to conduct surveillance and document the cheating spouse’s activities can provide powerful evidence.
- Digital Forensics: Texts, emails, dating app messages, and social media posts can be subpoenaed. Forensic experts can sometimes recover deleted communications.
- Witness Testimony: Testimony from friends, family, or other witnesses who have direct knowledge of the affair can be compelling. The paramour can even be subpoenaed to testify.
- Financial Records: Credit card statements and bank records can show suspicious spending that corroborates other evidence of an affair.
It is vital to gather this evidence legally. Illegally recording conversations or obtaining documents through illicit means can harm your case and even lead to legal trouble. Working with an experienced family law attorney is key to building a strong and admissible case.
Are There Defenses to an Adultery Claim?
A person accused of adultery in a divorce proceeding is not without potential defenses. The most common defenses in Virginia include:
- Condonation: This defense argues that the faithful spouse forgave the infidelity. Forgiveness is typically shown by resuming the marital relationship, including sexual intimacy, after the innocent spouse learned of the affair. If the court finds the adultery was condoned, it can no longer be used as a bar to spousal support.
- Connivance: This is when the “innocent” spouse encourages or facilitates the affair.
- Recrimination: This defense is used when both spouses are guilty of a fault-based ground for divorce. For example, if one spouse cheated and the other was guilty of cruelty or desertion, the court may weigh the mutual fault.
- Statute of Limitations: A claim of adultery must be brought within five years of the act.
Protect Your Rights and Secure Your Future
Navigating a divorce involving infidelity requires a clear understanding of your rights and a strategic approach to the legal process. The decisions made during this time will have a lasting impact on your financial security and your family’s future.
If you are dealing with a divorce in Virginia complicated by infidelity, the experienced attorneys at Pack Law Group are here to provide the knowledgeable and compassionate guidance you need. We are dedicated to protecting our clients’ rights and helping them move forward with confidence. Contact us at 540-586-7225 for a consultation to discuss your situation and learn how we can assist you.
